Unfortunately, the people who are supposed to love us aren’t always able to give us the kind of love we need. Whether they are our mothers or our fathers, our grandparents or our siblings, some family, no matter how good their intentions, leave us feeling empty, invalidated, uncared for, and alone. And on the days when that pain becomes too much to bear, our work is to recognize that those people whose love we so desperately pine for are never going to be able to meet our needs. Not because they don’t care, but because they can’t change who they are.
Their scant affection isn’t a reflection on our worth. It isn’t even about us. It’s about them and their own limitations and struggles. It’s about their unique way of expressing love and the fact that it doesn’t match up with our own. And we don’t have to internalize that. What we need is to start reaching out to the right people. We need to create a family of people outside of our family. People who can meet our needs and reciprocate our love.
We need to appreciate our families for the ways in which they are able to show they care, and be accepting of the ways they can’t. We need to make peace with who they are and if necessary, we need to give ourselves permission to let go. We need to know that our worth isn’t something another person’s love can give or take away. We need to trust that with or without their affection, we are enough.
Sometimes I just wish I had a day off. I really need to clean my room.
Hilary Duff was my favorite childhood role model. She’s so awesome, plus she’s one of those Disney channel kids that made it out okay. :)
Her personality is so adorable
this ones better.
Just because someone’s parents are together, someone has a nice house, has nice clothes, isn’t poor, eats every day and has a loving family doesn’t mean they can’t be depressed, have anxiety, an eating disorder, self harm issues, or any other problem.
I think you need to fall in love with the wrong person. I think you need to fight and cry and sweat and bleed and fail. I think you need to have bad relationships and bad breakups. I think you need all of that so that when the right person and the right relationship comes along you can sigh with relief and say, “Ah yes. That is how its supposed to feel.
I dont want sex, i want the things that lead up to it. The slow kissing then the passionate kissing, then the pulling closer, the neck kisses, the grabbing, biting, heavy breathing, grinding, the pauses while you catch your breath, feeling each other. Oh my.
That moment when a girl is so turned on by you and your kiss that she can’t stand but to grind up against you even thought both of you fully clothed.
I like this
RIP: Nelson Mandela (1918-2013)
Photo by Ian Berry, South Africa, 1994.
last text messages from the victims of the daegu subway fire on february 18, 2003.
“i’m sorry. i won’t be able to deliver the bag and shoes i was going to make you donkkatsu too… sorry… my daughter. i love you.”
“i’m tired of you hahahhahahahaha go away bye bye”
“there’s a fire. i’m going to heaven first.”
“even without oppa, make sure to eat properly and listen to your parents… ok? haha. and don’t wait for me i’m not coming.”
“oppa has important business so i’ll be gone for a while. don’t wait for me and go back home. ok? i love you.”
“hahaha don’t wait for me hahaa i got tired of you bye!”
“study hard and grow up well daddy is sorry”
“ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ <- how i feel”
“yeah there’s a fire on the subway report it right away don’t worry and keep calm. ok? oppa is okay.”
“if i suddenly wasn’t there tomorrow what are you going to do? i’m just asking because i’m curious haha”
“don’t wait for me”
“i’m so sorry for getting angry with you this morning dear i love you forever”
the ones from the parents to their children… all the boyfriends/brothers pretending nothing is wrong… and those who tried to buffer the pain by hiding the truth that they were about to die, so that their loved ones could hate them and be less hurt.
“숨을 못 쉬겠어요. 살려줘요…”
“여보 사랑해요, 애들 보고 싶어!”
(사고 발생 8분후 통화기록중)
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